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Intermingling: Mixed Chick Interracial Dating- Turkey Part III

The Count was at our favourite bar last night. His eyes lit up the second he saw me, and he came over to say hi. Funny thing was that I spent most of my night with him, even though he didn’t say much. I actually enjoy the silence. Most Western guys talk for the sake of talking- actually, we all do. We talk to avoid awkward silences, we make small talk to make ourselves feel better and we talk even when we have nothing to say. Count doesn’t talk unless he absolutely has to say something. And it makes him even more interesting, because then I listen. 

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Posted 3 weeks ago 1 note

Jamaican

The thing about Jamaicans, and I’m a Jamaican, is that all or almost all of us are mixed with different races/ethnic groups. So sometimes tell someone your part Jamaican part whatever automatically leads them to say “oh your Jamaican!” Meh it’s life but definitely be proud to have even a bit of Jamaican in you :) 

Posted 3 weeks ago
alright. im mixed cuban and black. i get my hair done at the dominican salon every two wks and now its starting to get warm out and i want to wear my hair curly but my curls on one side of my head are wavy and the other is curly curly. plz help from ipleadthesaksfifth

Hey! I wouldn’t worry too much about this. What has happened, though, is that you have damaged your hair with all the heat and styling. When I straighten my hair consecutively and wash it out, my hair turns wavy too. 

What I would suggest firstly is stop with the heat for awhile. Also, a few washes with some good shampoo and a great, thick conditioner should do the trick. Leave the conditioner in (comb it through) for a few hours or overnight. A hair mask will give you moisture too. Do this for a few days. Also, I’d use cold water to wash your hair out when you get it done. You want to take the heat out of your hair. 

But don’t worry, this has happened to me also. However, the more often you apply heat to your curly hair, there is a greater possibility that your curls will turn into waves and stay that way. Be careful, and good luck!

Posted 3 weeks ago 1 note
omg the pacific mall post- I was like what americans know about pacific ma- OHHHH YOU'RE FROM TORONTO TOO x) from Anonymous

Yeah!! Its nice to meet another person from Toronto! 

Posted 1 month ago 2 notes

Intermingling: Mixed Chick Interracial Dating- Turkey Part II

The Count messaged me last night, asking if I wanted to hang out. Since I’m moving back home, I figured I might as well YOLO this one. He came over with some of his friends (who are really nice guys) and we smoked some sheesha until 6am. I found out that he is half Turk half Arabic, but identifies more with the latter. Once again, he didn’t really say much. I don’t think he speaks much English at all, and had his friends not been there, this would have bombed. 

After they left, he messaged me (his apparent ‘safe space’ where he could communicate with me) and said he wanted to come over and “sleep” with me. Knowing the disaster that our language barrie causes, I asked him to clarify. He meant he wanted to come over and just sleep beside me, nothing else. I don’t know what to think about this guy yet, but time is definitely running out. I leave this town next week.

Posted 1 month ago
Hi. I recently found out about the Native ancestry I have in me, it turns out I'm about one-quarter Native Canadian. Since then my family has gone through the motions of joining a band and the like, but I'm still nervous about learning about this part of my heritage because I'm afraid people will think I'm 'too white' and find it offensive. What should I do? from Anonymous

Hey! Finding out that you are part of an ancestry that you had never imagined can be scary and hard to accept. It was only a few years ago that I found out that I am part Chinese as well, and it terrified me because I wasn’t expecting it. I think it’s amazing that you have another part of you/another culture to explore, and I think that you should learn about it and embrace it!

There’s a lot of backlash and misconceptions about First Nations people; I’ve taken quite a few courses that address these issues and the main problem is the lack of understanding of their history, as well as how colonialism has affected them. I know people who grew up told to fear First Nations people because they were “dirty” and “uncivilized”. But as they grew up and learned themselves, they were ashamed of themselves when they found out it wasn’t true. The best thing we can do for ourselves is learn, especially about other people’s cultures. Personally, I think being mixed with Native ancestry is an amazing thing- there is so much history to learn about that may inspire you to help others going through what you are going through.

Embrace your new-found ancestry and make an effort to educate people on the culture- many people just follow stereotypes. Once you learn some more about First Nations people, trust me, you’ll be proud :)

Hang in there! 

Posted 1 month ago 1 note